waiting to exhale
ok, i know i haven't written for a while. but i've been kinda thinking this current relationship, like all my others, would have some sort of short-term limit & just crash and burn. but here we are, after my birthday party last night. and my boy showed up early to the party, brought me a dozen red roses (v nice from xpensive florist), gave me a luxury day planner as a gift, gave me a sweet card, and generally was just awesome. i mention all these things because the other guys that busted up, didn't give me anything for my b-day in some cases, forgot about it, or whatnot.
so now it looks like i have a genuine relationship. oh, and i forgot the last thing. he came home with me to find "getting to i do" on my bed, obviously being read, and didn't leave immediately. lol.
ok, so now phase 2 commences. it's been six months with boy, and now i'm trying to make the transition from single girl to couple girl. and it's wierd b/c my single girlfriends are now treating me different. i'm sure i'm treating them dif too, but gees, this is harder than it looks. i don't want to lose them.
wierd when you become a couple something has to go. oh well, hopefully it'll just get better. i'll keep you posted, now that i can...
exhale.
April 23, 2006
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November 06, 2005
Loser
i went on another internet date the other night with "take me off the shelf" from yahoo personals. i don't usually bash people by name, but ladies, this boy is married. he's in the process of getting a divorce, so he says, but who can believe anything after one lie?
i actually liked the guy & it pretty much sucks. i thought maybe i'd just missed the part on his profile that says separated. guess not. there wasn't a part that said that. so pretty much he wasted my time.
advice to all: ask the obvious questions online. how would i have found out that TMOFS was married? except that i asked? were you married? UHHHH. are you married now? UHHH. hello. gees. f** loser.
luckily i finally got smart and this time we really met for coffee. at starbucks. so there was NO way it could transition into a meal.
my last dates were pretty wierd. there was "you have such beautiful skin" guy. no seriously. like 5 times. one of my friends at work said to me, ever heard of silence of the lambs? ha.
who before that? i don't remember. i'm sure i will. oh, yes, and recently i met up with my favorite ex-boyfriend again that i periodically love to hate. i've finally decided, yes, finally, that he is a) not interested, b) too busy or c) likes to drive me insane. since neither of the above options are good, i'll settle for d) buh-bye. which leaves me with several options, let's call them A, and B. two make several when you're single. ;)
A will potentially turn into something besides short conversations, and B could morph into something beyond making out every so often. of course their identity is strictly a secret, and B isn't supposed to exist, but sometimes life just IS that way.
if my infamous ex of the who? paragraph returns from his workaholism, he will make C. but until then, i'm just doing fun things like building my nest, with big-ticket item purchases of...silverware. specifically gorham tulip frosted. mmmmmmmm. goes good with my famous apple pie. speaking of which...this is apple season, where all good girl's attention turns from boys to apples. as it should be. until the snow falls & skiing takes over.
i just wonder, when i have kids (sometime in the next 2-3 years) what will i think of doing? no more apple pies, skiing, and dates. will it just be bottles? ugh. i hope i don't start writing about which brand of bottles is best. unless they're designer brand, intended to match my outfit. yeah, i really am not writing this...
i went on another internet date the other night with "take me off the shelf" from yahoo personals. i don't usually bash people by name, but ladies, this boy is married. he's in the process of getting a divorce, so he says, but who can believe anything after one lie?
i actually liked the guy & it pretty much sucks. i thought maybe i'd just missed the part on his profile that says separated. guess not. there wasn't a part that said that. so pretty much he wasted my time.
advice to all: ask the obvious questions online. how would i have found out that TMOFS was married? except that i asked? were you married? UHHHH. are you married now? UHHH. hello. gees. f** loser.
luckily i finally got smart and this time we really met for coffee. at starbucks. so there was NO way it could transition into a meal.
my last dates were pretty wierd. there was "you have such beautiful skin" guy. no seriously. like 5 times. one of my friends at work said to me, ever heard of silence of the lambs? ha.
who before that? i don't remember. i'm sure i will. oh, yes, and recently i met up with my favorite ex-boyfriend again that i periodically love to hate. i've finally decided, yes, finally, that he is a) not interested, b) too busy or c) likes to drive me insane. since neither of the above options are good, i'll settle for d) buh-bye. which leaves me with several options, let's call them A, and B. two make several when you're single. ;)
A will potentially turn into something besides short conversations, and B could morph into something beyond making out every so often. of course their identity is strictly a secret, and B isn't supposed to exist, but sometimes life just IS that way.
if my infamous ex of the who? paragraph returns from his workaholism, he will make C. but until then, i'm just doing fun things like building my nest, with big-ticket item purchases of...silverware. specifically gorham tulip frosted. mmmmmmmm. goes good with my famous apple pie. speaking of which...this is apple season, where all good girl's attention turns from boys to apples. as it should be. until the snow falls & skiing takes over.
i just wonder, when i have kids (sometime in the next 2-3 years) what will i think of doing? no more apple pies, skiing, and dates. will it just be bottles? ugh. i hope i don't start writing about which brand of bottles is best. unless they're designer brand, intended to match my outfit. yeah, i really am not writing this...
July 28, 2005
can't "shout" it out
there are some relationships that just get so icky you can't wash the bad out of them. especially if one person wants to resolve & the other doesn't. you get so angry you can't be nice without being barby (not as in doll) even if you don't mean to. the relationship just gets so full of fear and anger and without ventilation it just becomes methane. then of course when it gets so combustable the person with the most fear shuts off the person with the most anger & it all goes up in smoke.
the sad thing is you can both really like each other but not get through. i just don't know what to do but walk away. which makes the fearful person even more fearful. but of course they project that back onto you.
so both of you are the bad guy, there is no good guy and you sure as hell can't fix it.
unresolvable relationships piss me off. i'm forever trying to fix them, but sometimes you have to just admit, the other person just doesn't want them fixed.
wish i knew why.
there are some relationships that just get so icky you can't wash the bad out of them. especially if one person wants to resolve & the other doesn't. you get so angry you can't be nice without being barby (not as in doll) even if you don't mean to. the relationship just gets so full of fear and anger and without ventilation it just becomes methane. then of course when it gets so combustable the person with the most fear shuts off the person with the most anger & it all goes up in smoke.
the sad thing is you can both really like each other but not get through. i just don't know what to do but walk away. which makes the fearful person even more fearful. but of course they project that back onto you.
so both of you are the bad guy, there is no good guy and you sure as hell can't fix it.
unresolvable relationships piss me off. i'm forever trying to fix them, but sometimes you have to just admit, the other person just doesn't want them fixed.
wish i knew why.
"he loves me..."
something there is about flowers that just sinks down into a woman's soul & makes her feel loved all over. exponential returns when they're from a guy.
some men get the results, even though they don't get the reason women love flowers.
i like those guys. especially cuz i love the flowers.
thanks, j.
something there is about flowers that just sinks down into a woman's soul & makes her feel loved all over. exponential returns when they're from a guy.
some men get the results, even though they don't get the reason women love flowers.
i like those guys. especially cuz i love the flowers.
thanks, j.
July 15, 2005
sparkles
what is it about marriage that takes the sparkle right out of a girl's eye? that makes her tired and aged?
scares the hell out of me. i've seen it happen to so many of my friends. what i can't figure out, is it just the aging process? (i feel old and tired too, even though someone at work just told me she thought i was 10 yrs younger than my age). or is it the marriage process?
i don't want to lose my sparkle.
what is it about marriage that takes the sparkle right out of a girl's eye? that makes her tired and aged?
scares the hell out of me. i've seen it happen to so many of my friends. what i can't figure out, is it just the aging process? (i feel old and tired too, even though someone at work just told me she thought i was 10 yrs younger than my age). or is it the marriage process?
i don't want to lose my sparkle.
i just want to say, i [something] you
so there's this wierd thing about being single that you don't know quite where to put men in your life. i have a friend who turns all her guys who didn't turn out to be the one into friends. i guess i could do that. but i just kinda lose interest in communicating with them if i'm not interested in them. or if they're not interested in me. interest is a big aphrodisiac.
so back to these boys. i guess i could friend them. i might as well. but the interesting part is in the choice. if i were married, i wouldn't have this choice.
not that there's anything wrong with that.
so there's this wierd thing about being single that you don't know quite where to put men in your life. i have a friend who turns all her guys who didn't turn out to be the one into friends. i guess i could do that. but i just kinda lose interest in communicating with them if i'm not interested in them. or if they're not interested in me. interest is a big aphrodisiac.
so back to these boys. i guess i could friend them. i might as well. but the interesting part is in the choice. if i were married, i wouldn't have this choice.
not that there's anything wrong with that.
May 18, 2005
he said, she said
it's amazing what conflicting advice is out there for singles. everyone really, but singles especially. especially women. getting real says "walk across the room & tell him you're really into him." mama gena says "shake that booty, grab that ass & make it yours." the rules say "don't look at him or smile at him. if he likes you, he'll go through hell or high water to get your attention." what's a girl to do? especially if she DOESN'T see any guys she likes across the room?
it's amazing what conflicting advice is out there for singles. everyone really, but singles especially. especially women. getting real says "walk across the room & tell him you're really into him." mama gena says "shake that booty, grab that ass & make it yours." the rules say "don't look at him or smile at him. if he likes you, he'll go through hell or high water to get your attention." what's a girl to do? especially if she DOESN'T see any guys she likes across the room?
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i prob won't be renewing seeingsingle.com. so you can also find this post at its blogspot location, which is i think something like http://seeingsingle2.blogspot.com.
i prob won't be renewing seeingsingle.com. so you can also find this post at its blogspot location, which is i think something like http://seeingsingle2.blogspot.com.