February 25, 2012

why i like courtney robertson

i think courtney is getting a bad rap on the bachelor. sure, she is mean. and catty. and stand-offish. and an exhibitionist. but the other girls can sure learn a few things from her when it comes to men. here's what i notice:

1) she was confident. yes, this is the #1 thing men all over the world report they are interested in. she was there for herself, to win ben's heart. or ring, whichever became more important. but she wasn't nervous, uncomfortable, and worshipping a stranger. she was herself, whatever that is. when i saw her mother, i realized how much of herself she really was. she has many of her mother's mannerisms, which i thought was a bit endearing.

2) she made dates fun. who likes to go on a date with someone who thinks they are SO much less worthy. or spends time talking about other girls. courtney just had fun, that's it. she didn't boo-hoo-hoo about life with ben.

3) she was authentic & vulnerable. but in a way that wasn't offputting. she mentioned her insecurity and asked for support in an appropriate way. she was also extremely candid with the camera, talking about how men had used her in the past. probably true. it does affect a woman's behavior. not that she wasn't using them back, but still, the conversations where she self-disclosed were real.

4) she wasn't caught up in a fantasy. love was very real to her, from her perspective. she didn't gush over ever-after; she honestly questioned if she should even bring ben home. of all the girls, she was the one that seemed the most grounded in reality: this was a show, where the objective was to get the rose & get to know a guy better. she seemed to follow an appropriate pattern of matching reality to the "love" experience.

5) she was sexual. again, she didn't make the relationship what it wasn't yet. she made it about the present - not about esoteric love and happily ever after. she just made sure her guy was happy now.

6) she takes care of herself. so really. when are 4-hour naps "high maintenance?" i applaud this girl for taking care of herself if that is true. the #1 problem women have is not men, but meeting our own needs - and the main thing we deprive ourselves of is sleep. hats off to a girl that puts herself first...

so there you have it. i admire her. biatch or not, that girl has some game.