March 19, 2009

men & sex

well, i'm off this weekend to another conference by alison armstrong on men & sex. being from a family where historically this is a BIG problem, i hope it will cure me & i will have great sex forever more. ok, or at least think differently about men & sex. ;)

luckily i have some folks to practice what i learn on. the hard part, as a woman, as you know, is 1) finding a guy that cares what you want, 2) is good enough for you to care that he cares, and then 3) learning to tell him. getting this trifecta together is a shocking occurrence. then getting it together in a package as nice as the jerk was before he became the jerk, yeah, doesn't happen. you can't have it all.

either you have

- great sex with a hot guy & no relationship or

- a relationship with a not hot guy with great sex

- or a hot guy with a relationship & no sex.

does it ever all line up? hmmm...

March 16, 2009

post-doc

well, i'm back in the swing of things again.

this weekend i finally realized i have friends. this is - because i am doing favors for them & going to listen to them talk when they are upset. you don't do these things when you have no friends. i know this from the fact that i am telling you about it. so it's cool. i finally have a network. in real life, not just online.

online i continue to communicate with folks as well. and that is very healing to my wounded spirit. i get a lot of support from my friends in far-away places that send close-up hugz. it's nice.

last night i met up with mr. busy again. i really need a new name for him, but such as he is. he's pretty much busy partying & what not but whatever. that's his life. rich-kid syndrome. we met for dinner & um, you know. other fun things that follow dinner. ;) we had so much fun that his roomate came out to see who was making all the noise. i have pretty much realized that mr. busy isn't going anywhere. he is around to stay. that means i don't have to freak out, contact him all the time, wonder what he's doing.

he'll be back.

ah. the relief. this is JUST what i need right now. a solid guy who won't leave. without saying goodbye. or rather, just. won't. leave.

(plus did i say how sexy he is!)

sometimes god works in mysterious ways...