my wedding vows
yes, i've written them early. just now in fact. so that when the time comes i'll have one less thing to do...
Groom, do you take Bride to be your wedded wife, to live together in marriage so long as you both live near where you work?
Do you promise to do what she wants so she feels like you love her, comfort her when the Patriots or RedSox are not playing, honor her mother and her nasty cat, and keep her happy while getting richer (not poorer), in your sickness and her health. And forsaking all others that she knows about, keep up the appearance of being faithful only to her...
So long as you both shall happily live, or for the next 7 years, whichever comes first?
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Bride, do you take Groom to be your wedded husband, to live together in marriage so long as you both live near where YOU work?
Do you promise to love him when he is being loving to you, comfort him when his sports teams lose, honor the in-laws and his big smelly dog, and keep him satisfied in bed whether he does the same for you or not, in better or in worse economic crises, even though you might be richer with alimony than poorer being married, in your sickness and his health. And forsaking most others, be faithful only to him as far as everyone knows...
So long as you both shall happily live, or for the next 7 years, whichever comes first?
May 23, 2009
May 18, 2009
new guy
so a poll for my readers. you can comment if you like.
so if you meet a new somebody, & something about them annoys you, does it
a) get better
b) go away
in this case, it's a super nice new guy, divorced, french-canadian from maine. seems to be smart, but just good laid off, poor guy. has a house. 40ish. good conversationalist.
except, isn't what i ususually date in a guy. not as masculine, very analytical. tends to analyze, rather than summarize. hard to explain.
so i'll try. so we show up at the restaurant. there is a wait so we go to the bar. the reason we went to this restaurant was so that we could have this particular european beer. that, and i love the restaurant. so the beer is not available. and he reads the menu. the beer menu. for a long time. a long time. a very long time. i mean we're interacting & all, but i'm like hmmm. ok.
i'm standing here, ready to talk. but he's not. so i remember what i am learning in the conferences about transition time. so i think, oh, he's still transitioning to being here. drinking whatever.
so he gets his beer & doesn't like it. he gets another beer later & doesn't like it. finally at the end of the night i decide for him that he DOESN'T like beer, so time to find something new. even if it is a girlie drink.
i guess i was just feeling a bit ignored. that, and i like a guy who knows what he wants. and doesn't settle & then complain about it. indecision is one of my traits. i don't seek it in a partner.
however, he is an analyst, like me. so there are two of us to analyze. hmmm.
so anyway, i had this first date with him (2nd time we've hung out) and i didn't come back energized. is that a bad sign? i mean i just think about being with my cap & i'm all happy & fulfilled even if we're not dating.
i'm not sure if it is being with someone new also. it just takes so much energy. answering questions. i hate answering questions. i like to just BE.
he sent me a sweet e-card at the end of the date...it was nice. i'm sure i'll see him again. he wants to go dancing but i don't really (???) i'd rather grab drinks again. i feel like much energy goes out and not much in.
is this just me being super picky? hmmm.
so a poll for my readers. you can comment if you like.
so if you meet a new somebody, & something about them annoys you, does it
a) get better
b) go away
in this case, it's a super nice new guy, divorced, french-canadian from maine. seems to be smart, but just good laid off, poor guy. has a house. 40ish. good conversationalist.
except, isn't what i ususually date in a guy. not as masculine, very analytical. tends to analyze, rather than summarize. hard to explain.
so i'll try. so we show up at the restaurant. there is a wait so we go to the bar. the reason we went to this restaurant was so that we could have this particular european beer. that, and i love the restaurant. so the beer is not available. and he reads the menu. the beer menu. for a long time. a long time. a very long time. i mean we're interacting & all, but i'm like hmmm. ok.
i'm standing here, ready to talk. but he's not. so i remember what i am learning in the conferences about transition time. so i think, oh, he's still transitioning to being here. drinking whatever.
so he gets his beer & doesn't like it. he gets another beer later & doesn't like it. finally at the end of the night i decide for him that he DOESN'T like beer, so time to find something new. even if it is a girlie drink.
i guess i was just feeling a bit ignored. that, and i like a guy who knows what he wants. and doesn't settle & then complain about it. indecision is one of my traits. i don't seek it in a partner.
however, he is an analyst, like me. so there are two of us to analyze. hmmm.
so anyway, i had this first date with him (2nd time we've hung out) and i didn't come back energized. is that a bad sign? i mean i just think about being with my cap & i'm all happy & fulfilled even if we're not dating.
i'm not sure if it is being with someone new also. it just takes so much energy. answering questions. i hate answering questions. i like to just BE.
he sent me a sweet e-card at the end of the date...it was nice. i'm sure i'll see him again. he wants to go dancing but i don't really (???) i'd rather grab drinks again. i feel like much energy goes out and not much in.
is this just me being super picky? hmmm.