new guy

so a poll for my readers. you can comment if you like.

so if you meet a new somebody, & something about them annoys you, does it

a) get better
b) go away

in this case, it's a super nice new guy, divorced, french-canadian from maine. seems to be smart, but just good laid off, poor guy. has a house. 40ish. good conversationalist.

except, isn't what i ususually date in a guy. not as masculine, very analytical. tends to analyze, rather than summarize. hard to explain.

so i'll try. so we show up at the restaurant. there is a wait so we go to the bar. the reason we went to this restaurant was so that we could have this particular european beer. that, and i love the restaurant. so the beer is not available. and he reads the menu. the beer menu. for a long time. a long time. a very long time. i mean we're interacting & all, but i'm like hmmm. ok.

i'm standing here, ready to talk. but he's not. so i remember what i am learning in the conferences about transition time. so i think, oh, he's still transitioning to being here. drinking whatever.

so he gets his beer & doesn't like it. he gets another beer later & doesn't like it. finally at the end of the night i decide for him that he DOESN'T like beer, so time to find something new. even if it is a girlie drink.

i guess i was just feeling a bit ignored. that, and i like a guy who knows what he wants. and doesn't settle & then complain about it. indecision is one of my traits. i don't seek it in a partner.

however, he is an analyst, like me. so there are two of us to analyze. hmmm.

so anyway, i had this first date with him (2nd time we've hung out) and i didn't come back energized. is that a bad sign? i mean i just think about being with my cap & i'm all happy & fulfilled even if we're not dating.

i'm not sure if it is being with someone new also. it just takes so much energy. answering questions. i hate answering questions. i like to just BE.

he sent me a sweet e-card at the end of the date...it was nice. i'm sure i'll see him again. he wants to go dancing but i don't really (???) i'd rather grab drinks again. i feel like much energy goes out and not much in.

is this just me being super picky? hmmm.