well, it happens

so i finally have a new guy. of quality. & substance.

last night my new guy told me i was everything he was looking for. i didn't really take in the idea at the time, but it sure was interesting to think about this morning.

i asked him how he knew this, and he pointed out that he'd showed up & done everything he could to turn me off (essentially, by telling me the truth about his life, divorce, kids) & i - was still here. he said i drive a nice car, have a great job, etc. but i didn't show up telling you all that, i just said the truth. i was like, well, i don't like being impressed anyway. so that worked.

i pondered that thought & pointed out to him he'd managed to do that without shooting himself in the foot, which is what most guys do. he hadn't put himself down, he'd just told it like it is.

me, on the other hand, didn't tell him how impressed i was. a man that is kind, generous, provides for women & his children (and now me cuz he's been paying for everything even if i offer), has a personality AND a career, and most important - values the qualities in me that i've been like WTF doesn't anybody notice. plus, he is ok with religion & knows a lot about it - but has my same priorities of BALANCE. on, did i mention he is cute & affectionate?

yeah. it's been a while. i've been dating guys for years who just don't care about the things that really matter in a person because they didn't want relationships. so what if you are spectacular, i'm looking for so many "yous" that eh, whatever.

so we'll see what happens, but at the moment, i'm shall we say, falling...

finally...

...as princessB blogs tonite, a change in the weather.

after not hearing from new guy (POF guy that i met) for a week, i decided before i wrote him off to text him. so i did. and i got a really sweet text back. me: enjoyed hanging out with you! him: me too, would love to meet up again so i can get off this site.

i thought. hmm. promising.

then nothing. he couldn't go see tall ships with us & nothing else.'

so i bit my nails until yesterday, when he showed up again & wanted to do dinner. so we did dinner last night.

very impressed. he reminds me of a composite of a couple exes of mine, but seems to have gotten further down the career & socialization & commitment path than either of them. so we'll see.

oddly enough, his relationship broke apart over religion, the fundamental greatest influence of my life. but fortunately i found a balance, & it seems he did too.

i'm hopeful. i got off POF anyway, before i heard back from him tuesday. just so many guys out there wanting to either waste your time (what do you do? how do you do it? when do you do it? with whom do you do it? why do you do it?) or want to hook up. i did enough of that. been there. done that. eh.

so. we'll see. i have a really good feeling about this.

and my guess is, as long as i do, he'll keep coming back. because it seems to be when i don't have a good feeling anymore that things fall apart. & the guy leaves. or i leave him. & then i want that good feeling back (that was already wrecked when i decided things wouldn't work between us, but i didn't want to admit it).

maybe i can break that cycle. or. maybe it's not me, since all these guys are either still single or - in the case of my cheater ex - unhappy now.

anyhow. here's to new beginnings...

and we have...NOT reached our destination. or any for that matter...

just when i think i've gotten somewhere, i find myself two steps back. my frustration with men continues. i wonder if it will ever end. i think not.

so the online guy that i spent the 4th with didn't show. just in case, i texted him a week later (yesterday, showing remarkable restraint for me) saying i enjoyed hanging out with him. he responded immediately that he felt the same, would love to see me again, and he couldn't wait to get off the dating site. so i invited him to the tall ships yesterday. he sent a nice response, baby shower, gig he is playing, he could try to get out of it. i said, nah good to keep your gigs have fun.

nothing since.

so unless he is unseasonably busy, nothing is going to come of this guy.

in the meantime, the cute (27 YO) german friend of my friend seems to like me. he's been at about 3 things that i've done with my friend lately and he is new to town. he went with me to see the tall ships again. and i am very amused by his stories. he's well-traveled and interesting and likes to talk. i like to listen, so that works fine. he's also asking a lot of questions about me which leads me to believe he likes me.

when i asked my friend about him a few days ago, she said oh no, he's too young for you. yes, he even exceeds my 10-year limit. so i didn't even consider him more than a friend. but i'm curious. he mentioned visiting the aquarium about 4 times and i think he wanted me to say i'd go with him. so i said i would. (he's a diver.)

i guess you just go with what IS sometimes, rather than what you WISH would be. all the time i was with him i was thinking about the other guy & wondering if he'd show up again.

but oh well. i really am wondering why i can't seem to be in a r-ship so at this point, i'm not sure i want to be so picky.

life is sure strange. for me, anyway...