well, it happens

so i finally have a new guy. of quality. & substance.

last night my new guy told me i was everything he was looking for. i didn't really take in the idea at the time, but it sure was interesting to think about this morning.

i asked him how he knew this, and he pointed out that he'd showed up & done everything he could to turn me off (essentially, by telling me the truth about his life, divorce, kids) & i - was still here. he said i drive a nice car, have a great job, etc. but i didn't show up telling you all that, i just said the truth. i was like, well, i don't like being impressed anyway. so that worked.

i pondered that thought & pointed out to him he'd managed to do that without shooting himself in the foot, which is what most guys do. he hadn't put himself down, he'd just told it like it is.

me, on the other hand, didn't tell him how impressed i was. a man that is kind, generous, provides for women & his children (and now me cuz he's been paying for everything even if i offer), has a personality AND a career, and most important - values the qualities in me that i've been like WTF doesn't anybody notice. plus, he is ok with religion & knows a lot about it - but has my same priorities of BALANCE. on, did i mention he is cute & affectionate?

yeah. it's been a while. i've been dating guys for years who just don't care about the things that really matter in a person because they didn't want relationships. so what if you are spectacular, i'm looking for so many "yous" that eh, whatever.

so we'll see what happens, but at the moment, i'm shall we say, falling...