mrs-nomers

why do ladies have to call their husbands "my husband?" don't they have names? i just dunno why i'm so sensitive to this, but i really don't understand. it's probably not intentional but it might be. that status thing, rubbing it in the face of us single folks.

it's not just a woman's thing. i had a former co-worker who always said "my wife" this & "my wife" that. a badge of identification.

i'm so ME that there's not a lot of this to me. the closest i get to this is "my sister" did such & such. wait, i take that back! it's "my ex-boyfriend" in my world. that's all good. as long as it's not "my cat" i'll be ok, lol.

the other day i was talking to a friend who indicated that some people grow up socialized to be in relationships no matter what. she and i didn't. we were raised to stay out of them probably, lol. anyhow, we were raised to live "consciously" and choose our life. to not conform. here we are single and grouching about it, but - we are still developing ourselves. our inner souls did not die under the routine of a life that we assumed we HAD to assume (i.e. take on).

yes, the soul still breathes in us single folk. sometimes it's more asthmatic than normal, but still it breathes. within our hearts is always the hope that around the next corner, or perhaps in our little corner now, life will get better. it will because we aren't locked into the possibility that it WON'T. no matter how bad things get being a singleton, and no matter how much the smug marrieds may look down on us or flaunt their spouses - we breathe the air on the mountaintop of freedom. may be lonely at the top, but still, we're there...

of birds & bees & flowers & trees

i don't often LOL at guys' dating profiles, but this one was just so "cute" i had to! this good-looking dental student or something writes of what he wants in a woman:

"I'm looking for a sweet, playful girl to accompany me in this - one who is as cute on the inside as she is on the exterior."

IMHO, this means a cute bitch. me, i don't think this describes me, so i wouldn't respond. does any girl think this describest her? yeah, probably not.

this is the part that kills me. in the question, where would you like to go on a first date, he says

"i'd really like to go for a walk in a park close by my place that has some really nice flowers and trees."

i'm LMAO.

[ROFL]

[still ROFL]

....

[still ROFL]

the last time i took a guy to the park - he got so bored he mentioned it when we broke up. :)

what exactly does a red-blooded man want to do at a park with nice flowers & trees? yeah, i see couples hanging out there all the time. but really, how sappy can you get. why doesn't he just say i wanna go anywhere that will get you in the mood - and fast - but still keep you looking cute!

[stops ROFL.]

oh duh.

i just got it. "close by my place."

NOW i get it!!!!

[starts ROFL again]

i do. you do? let's go!

the other day i walked down to the dollar store to pick up some kitty accoutrement. i passed some girls dressed up like the prom, who had parked & were running toward the church. the bride and bridemaids were waiting outside, with the poor bridesmaids wearing lime green dresses that i can only imagine the bride picked in her most evil moment of the year. (me now thinks all brides end in zilla. ;)

after visiting my 3 favorite dollar stores, i walk back with my new purchases (including fun things like hydrogen peroxide for kitty scratches and armorall car wash) and - voila. the wedding appears to be over!

i am so surprised at this, that i look around to make sure. sure enough, the same two girls are headed back to their cars.

my first thought was: wow, that was an expensive few minutes for her, i bet she spent more than i did.

ok, yeah, well she came away with a man & a whole new life, whereas i'm only washing my car and protecting myself against smelly-cat, but whatever. i still thought that, so there!