mrs-nomers

why do ladies have to call their husbands "my husband?" don't they have names? i just dunno why i'm so sensitive to this, but i really don't understand. it's probably not intentional but it might be. that status thing, rubbing it in the face of us single folks.

it's not just a woman's thing. i had a former co-worker who always said "my wife" this & "my wife" that. a badge of identification.

i'm so ME that there's not a lot of this to me. the closest i get to this is "my sister" did such & such. wait, i take that back! it's "my ex-boyfriend" in my world. that's all good. as long as it's not "my cat" i'll be ok, lol.

the other day i was talking to a friend who indicated that some people grow up socialized to be in relationships no matter what. she and i didn't. we were raised to stay out of them probably, lol. anyhow, we were raised to live "consciously" and choose our life. to not conform. here we are single and grouching about it, but - we are still developing ourselves. our inner souls did not die under the routine of a life that we assumed we HAD to assume (i.e. take on).

yes, the soul still breathes in us single folk. sometimes it's more asthmatic than normal, but still it breathes. within our hearts is always the hope that around the next corner, or perhaps in our little corner now, life will get better. it will because we aren't locked into the possibility that it WON'T. no matter how bad things get being a singleton, and no matter how much the smug marrieds may look down on us or flaunt their spouses - we breathe the air on the mountaintop of freedom. may be lonely at the top, but still, we're there...