men & sex

well, i'm off this weekend to another conference by alison armstrong on men & sex. being from a family where historically this is a BIG problem, i hope it will cure me & i will have great sex forever more. ok, or at least think differently about men & sex. ;)

luckily i have some folks to practice what i learn on. the hard part, as a woman, as you know, is 1) finding a guy that cares what you want, 2) is good enough for you to care that he cares, and then 3) learning to tell him. getting this trifecta together is a shocking occurrence. then getting it together in a package as nice as the jerk was before he became the jerk, yeah, doesn't happen. you can't have it all.

either you have

- great sex with a hot guy & no relationship or

- a relationship with a not hot guy with great sex

- or a hot guy with a relationship & no sex.

does it ever all line up? hmmm...