he said, she said

it's amazing what conflicting advice is out there for singles. everyone really, but singles especially. especially women. getting real says "walk across the room & tell him you're really into him." mama gena says "shake that booty, grab that ass & make it yours." the rules say "don't look at him or smile at him. if he likes you, he'll go through hell or high water to get your attention." what's a girl to do? especially if she DOESN'T see any guys she likes across the room?