baby's got back

i used this header before, but this one relates to exes coming back. i heard today from another one (the one that i referenced before that didn't return my calls). turns out he is married, is getting divorced. never knew that. but nice to hear from him again...

the other one from years ago (that didn't want to talk to me for a while also) is coming to visit.

a current friend?? is coming to visit too. not an ex.

and then there's the guy i really like. also an ex.

none of this means anything really. it's all a work in progress. until it's a done deal i'll just play the ex-field. obviously the new guys aren't working out so well.

then there's the two guys i liked last year that i deleted from my friends on myspace. one of them i invited back to be my friend. the other one, an ex, i'm not sure about but i'm trying to reconcile.

life is too short to alienate exes. you don't have to screw around with them again, but might as well add them to the roster. you never know when they'll come in handy. and manhandle you again. lol. or not. oh well. the thought cracked me up anyway...

the main point is, every ex added to my life a little something & that in itself is worthy paying tribute to.

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so to respond to one comment by anon on one of my recent blogs... he said (of my required qualifications)...

"NICE - Usually this would be #1. But I think most people feel that everyone is nice on the inside, and that you just have to bring it out."

i'm very fascinated by this point of view. because as i see it, if people ARE nice, they will BE nice. i don't feel any obligation to bring out the good in anyone. if it doesn't find its own way out, who am i to go spelunking?

actually, i think we are all inherently selfish & evil in general & have to overcome that every day.

and then there is the theory that women make men into a**holes. so that's where the diving for nice is. me, there's a difference between nice & sexy. both are possible. you don't have to be an a**hole to be sexy.

oh well, viva la difference in opinion!