sheep in wolf's clothing?

somebody wrote to me lately & observed that the guys i date aren't in tip-top shape. well, that's not what he said, but the point is, why don't i date up to my standards? is the ultimate question that comes out of that. it's a good question.

(annoying view of palm tree interrupts inappropriately)

for one thing i do date good people. but i don't write about them because sometimes they know i have a website and could read about themselves. i've gotten myself in trouble this way once or twice before.

hence, i write about strangers.

secondly, how does one know which of these strangers one should date and try to convert into the first group where they cannot be written about? i've been trying to figure out for years how to date good men. it's not like it's written in their foreheads like the mark of the beast. "i am a good man." rather one has to wade through tons of b.s. that is nicely couched in dinners, drinks, compliments, flowers, and generally spend a lot of time trying to figure out who is good and who isn't.

so i read through guys' profiles on dating sites & sadly end up judging through pictures. how shallow that is. but since a lot of them look like convicts in their pictures, it makes it a bit easier to assume they're not a good guy.

how do i pick a good guy to even go on a first date with? i still don't know.