the ties that bind

i'm sure i've ranted on this in the past, but i'll say it again. one of the most difficult things about being single is the attachment process. being the sort of person who gets attached at some level to most people that i care about, it is an ongoing and sometimes emotionally exhausting process of 1) deciding who to attach to / detach from, and 2) carry off said process.

there comes a point where you grow up enough to not cry over every little breakup & just go, well, it's not meant to be. next.

then there are the people you've been single with for 10 years and there's some history there and you just have to muddle through it the best way you can. and some part of you just wants to find a home and stop having to say goodbye over and over again...