mr. busy

i've been seeing mr. busy (my cap) again. along with mr. 5-years-ago. in fact on sunday night i saw them both.

i kissed 2 boys & i liked it.

actually, i more like attacked mr. busy. which he was super happy about. thanks for the "dinner," said i. no, thank YOU. said he.

mr. busy is busy living up to his moniker. i asked him if he wanted to do dinner the other night (for real). he was busy getting ready he said. i texted, you around this weekend? thinking what is he getting ready for? sure enough he sends me back an e-mail today with a list of all the people he is meeting & things he is doing so that he won't have time until mid-next week to see me.

hence mr. busy.

in an interestingly-insightful move, i realize this is why i like mr. busy so much. he likes people. rather, he loves people.

on our first date i asked him to tell me about himself. first words out of his mouth - i really like people.

so tonite i write him back that i remember this, and that is one of the coolest things about him. i'm sure he'll be jaw-droppingly-shocked, as before when we dated i was whiney about why don't you want to see me. his little litany of appointments is his way of telling me it's not that i don't want to see you...(i do tend sometimes to regress to the comment about being last on his agenda, which he denies.) since we're not dating & he has no reason to need to explain his whereabouts to me, he is telling me to make sure i really know i'm not last - he isn't blowing me off.

i look forward to seeing you again when you have time, says i.

i wonder what he will do when i tell him how much i like it that he likes other people.

the coolest thing about people that don't blow off people to see you, is that they don't blow you off either. mr. busy has never once let me down when he said he'd meet up. he could also be called mr. dependable, which is one reason, in spite of all the things that we don't have in common (as he rightly pointed out last time we dated), i keep coming back to try to get on his agenda. well, that & his "dinners." ;)

i'm noticing lately too that mr. busy doesn't want to leave when he comes over. & offers me to stay long when i visit him. which i refuse, being tired & all, but especially knowing that hanging around too long was one thing that made our previous relationship lose steam. but regardless, i am curious about this new little event. two times doesn't make a trend (knows i, from my job) yet - changes in behavior do show something. different.

so anyhow, to point out the obvious moral of the story: similar to when i never heard from the jerk the day after he said all his dates had been "what was her name again?" when people tell you things about themselves: LISTEN.