life stages
there's the prom
then the college dates
the weddings
and the babies
then the divorces
then...the illness.
2 people, very close to me - literally - have been diagnosed with cancer in the last week. my housemate and the guy that sits in the cube next to mine...
i don't know what to say.
to them either.
:(
7 comments:
Oh honey, I'm so sorry! The only thing you really can say is that you'll be there if they need anything. That's usually the most comforting thing. Take care of yourself.
Sometimes there's nothing to say. Sometimes all you can do is listen.
thanks for your comments ladies. i'll get cards, care packages, pray & give big hugz. i guess that's something in can do instead of say...
My sister in law is very sick with cancer. The one thing that she appreciates that I do for her is listen. I don't care what she tells me, I listen and I don't pussy foot around the subject of cancer if that's what she wants to talk about. I don't say I'm sorry, I don't tell her it's going to be ok, I ask how things are, how she feels, REALLY how she feels (she's 36 with a 4 year old and the freaking cancer has moved to her brain - it's final resting place, I'd say she feels pretty sh*tty).
Maybe I can get away with what others can't but don't hide from it around them. It is what it is and if they want to talk about it, let them.
ok, listening it is...
oh, how callous of me! gees. i'm so sorry about your sister in law. i can't even imagine what she is going through - and you and her family as well. big hugz to you all!
I have been through this personally. Just avoid the comments like.."It'll be ok" because it might not be, or any comment to do with God.
Listening is good advice. I so needed an ear and wanted to talk. People have a hard time listening to your fears sometimes.
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