taken a beating
i feel completely beaten up lately by guys. i just don't know how to control the asshole factor. granted, i could make better decisions, but what is it about me that magnetizes them?
it's always been that way. because i am aloof or attractive or both, i attract guys who hit & run. very odd.
i'm so beaten down right now i don't even have anything pithy to say or snide like i usually do. i'm just emotionally exhausted...
3 comments:
Hi. I found you blog by googling "mature men" because I seem to be a magnet for the immature ones.. HA HA!! Anyway I love your blog.
Similar situation myself... I thought the guy was GREAT. Really good looking, fun, exciting. But.... I'd spend a couple nights at his house and run into him at the bar when I was out with my friends and he'd be rather cool to me. Didn't want to talk but he'd yak his fool head off with anyone else. When I asked him about it he said he was just tired or I had to give him time to relax. Whatever....
I put up with this goofy rude crap for 1.5 years because he's never been married (BIG RED FLAG) and we are 47 and 46. He especially liked to flirt and drink with young girls (22-24) even though they had boyfriends and kids. Yeah.. I know I know STUPID.
Final straw was when I asked him to do something with me and he didn't want to. Said he didn't want any strings and liked being alone. Wow!!! HEEEELLLLLLOOOOOO!! "I've been sleeping here on and off for the past 1.5 years and you're just telling me this?" ACCKKKKK!!!
Our town is very very small so I see him all the time. Of course he puts on a show of flirting with every woman in the bar. Leaning in to her, whispering, touching her arm. It doesn't matter who the woman is either - married, too young, too old, too ugly. I think he does it to piss me off.
Lastly - I am so glad I found you blog because I too have a hard time letting go of focusing on his good qualities (looks, sex, fun) and see the bad qualities outweigh the good by a ton.
my condolences to you on your experience...that must really suck to have to see such a guy often. i hope you feel better soon & find a good guy for you.
thanks for sharing. oddly, i can't tell you how much better this comment makes me feel. #1, that what i say on this blog, though lately tending to be bitchy, is useful to somebody besides myself. #2, a reminder that men don't change, so don't cry over them, let them go. #3, a reminder, this is not me that has the problem, it's his decision to be alone.
let me know how things go, if you stop back by...
Thanks for your response. Your blog is helping me because by reading it I can see you are an intelligent and articulate woman. So I don't feel so totally stupid for having the feelings I do for this guy - I'm not alone.
My friends are really no help because they all know he's a dog. When I talk about it (to get it out of my head) they tell me to just get over it. Hell!! I would if I could.
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